Confidence is a learned skill, just like leadership and public speaking.
The way we become more confident is to try new things. When we try new things, we learn what does and does not work for us and eventually conquer that new skill.
In talking with my friend Dr. Peter Buckley, the Dean of the Medical College of Georgia at Georgia Regents University and former Chair of the Department of Psychiatry and Health Behavior at the school, I asked if some people were born more confident. Dr. Buckley’s reply was “We are all born with the same innate confidence. It is experience that builds or destroys confidence in anything we attempt. If we fail at anything, it is important that we keep trying. This is how confidence and knowledge are ultimately built.”
This is why failure is such an important part of our growth. Failure is not truly failure unless we do not learn from it and do not try again.
Join me and PGA Professional, Jackie Cannizzo for an interactive program
Many of you have heard me say that if you don’t like golf, don’t golf,
but on November 2nd,
I dare you to get in the game with me.
Join me at the Roswell Country Club for the first annual DARE To Golf event where you’ll learn everything you need to know about golf along with tips to take charge of your career.
DARE To Golf
Monday, November 2, 2015
11:30 AM to 2:30 PM (EST)
Country Club of Roswell
2500 Club Springs Drive
Roswell, GA 30076
DARE to Golf is a program based on the coaching principles of PGA Professional Jackie Cannizzo’s 30 plus years of teaching golf and leading women’s initiatives. In the corporate world, women can often fall behind because they are intimidated by the male-dominated sport. There are very few easy entries into the game, but DARE to Golf works with professional coaches and golfers to put women in a position to hold their own in the office and on the golf course.
You have two ears, are you using them? Here’s how to leverage them more effectively to be a better listener.
Listening is a key skill for any leader, especially in today’s world where leaders are more dependant than ever on feedback from the front line. Things are changing too fast for any individual to keep up in a vacuum. Having an environment where people feel free to speak up, and respected when they do, is vital.
For many years I struggled with feedback I received that I was not a good listener. In my efforts to improve in this area I found a couple of changes to my behavior that proved invaluable.
Three Tips to Become a Better Listener
Seek Input To Glean Insight From Others: When you are the leader it is especially important that you seek input from others upfront before stating your views. I am an extrovert and quickly ready to share my views. When you do this, you shut down input from subordinates and others who may not feel...
How to Receive Constructive Feedback from Your Boss
When writing my book DARE, I interviewed many women, but also men. In talking with the men I asked: “If you could give women in the workplace one piece of advice, what would it be?” The number one response I received was “I wish women would not be so defensive when I give them constructive feedback." Many men said they would not give candid feedback to women because women typically get too emotional or upset. Women managers, on the other hand felt that men got very combative when receiving their feedback, leading to a breakdown of the process.
My initial response was to tell both men and women they may want to think about how their feedback was delivered. We are all better able to absorb feedback when it is delivered in a caring fashion. However, feedback really is a gift. I have learned over the years it is only people who really care about us who will take the time to give us honest and candid feedback. ...