Bully Busters: Five Tips for Dealing with Corporate Bullies
Kids on the playground are not the only ones dealing with bullies these days. Unfortunately, there are quite a few grown-up, corporate bullies out there too.
In fact, a WBI study found that 57% of women are targeted for workplace bullying. And not all of that ugly treatment is by men—some of that bullying is by other women. In a nationwide poll by the Employment Law Alliance, 45% of American workers say they’ve experienced workplace abuse. This study also showed that 40% of workplace bullies are women. They also found that female bullies pick on other women more than 70% of the time.
Why are adults, including so many women in a wide range of professions, bullying each other? And if you’re being bullied, what can you do to change the dynamic?
As the first woman to hold many of the leadership positions in a Fortune 200 company, I sometimes found myself in this situation. Since a woman had never held these positions, so...
During the past year, I have talked with numerous groups and I always ask the audience if they have a written plan for their personal success, which outlines what they want to accomplish in the next five years. There are usually only a few hands that are raised in response to the question. I must confess I would not have been with this group during most of my career journey.
I was told that I needed to write out my goals, but it was never emphasized. I figured I had it all in my head so there was no need to write it down. I sure wish someone had pushed me harder to do this and helped me understand why it is so important.
If you are not willing to invest the time and effort to articulate your goals in writing—then how much are you willing to invest in making those goals a reality? Writing them down makes them real and helps to crystallize our thoughts around them. About 60% of our brain function is tied to vision. When we can see our goals and visualize them, we become unstopp...
Having managed large teams of both men and women one noticeable difference I witnessed is how aggressive and focused men are in asking for what they want. This really stood out to me because I myself had never been forward and aggressive in asking for more pay or advocating for myself.
Why is this? I think it is that most women are programmed early in life to . . . not ask. We’ve been told to “wait to be asked”. I saw this play out just last week when a young woman in my neighborhood and I were discussing her distress over the fact that a boy she had dated all year asked another person to the prom. When I asked her why she didn’t just ask someone else her reply was, “Oh no, I can’t do that. Girls don’t do that.”
This cultural norm follows women into the corporate world. I was recently mentoring a young woman who was reticent to ask for an upgrade in title and salary commensurate with the additional tasks and responsibility she had been assigned and was performing. She didn't underst...