Confidence is a learned skill, just like leadership and public speaking.
The way we become more confident is to try new things. When we try new things, we learn what does and does not work for us and eventually conquer that new skill.
In talking with my friend Dr. Peter Buckley, the Dean of the Medical College of Georgia at Georgia Regents University and former Chair of the Department of Psychiatry and Health Behavior at the school, I asked if some people were born more confident. Dr. Buckley’s reply was “We are all born with the same innate confidence. It is experience that builds or destroys confidence in anything we attempt. If we fail at anything, it is important that we keep trying. This is how confidence and knowledge are ultimately built.”
This is why failure is such an important part of our growth. Failure is not truly failure unless we do not learn from it and do not try again.