December 5, 2014

The language we use defines our brand and how others perceive us.  It is important to choose your words carefully.  I often counsel people to seek advice from their boss or key customers when dealing with very controversial matters.  This can help you gain their support and valuable insights you may not have considered. 

 

When asking for this feedback it is best to frame your request as asking for their input and NOT asking for their help.  If you frame the request as asking for help it may signal that you are unable to make a decision on your own.  By asking instead for input you position yourself as someone who is competent but values advice of others, open to feedback and willing to listen to and work with others. 

 

Little changes in how we communicate can equal big changes in how we are perceived by others.

November 27, 2014

In a study of how the most successful people spend the first hour of each day, it was discovered many highly successful people spend some time thinking about the things for which they are most grateful.   Doing this puts them in the right frame of mind for the entire day.  It is a great attitude booster.

 

We often take for granted the many great blessings we have.  My mother used to tell me the best things in life are those which when given away, multiply.  Those would be love, friendship, respect, gratitude, and a smile.  I’m thankful to live in the United States – where we have so many amazing resources and opportunities available to us.  We have freedom, clean air and water and a country full of tremendous riches.  We are much better off than the 2 billion other people in this world who do not have these basic necessities.

As we begin this holiday season by celebrating Thanksgiving, think about the things you are most grateful for.  You will find this is...

November 25, 2014

Recently, I was conducting a workshop with high potential women from a Fortune 500 company.  One of the participants mentioned she was new to her team, and really wanted to fit in and develop great working relationships with the new team members.

 

My advice was to proactively look for ways to assist the other team members and look for opportunities to publically recognize their support.  Staff meetings are a great place to talk about the great work others on the team are doing and to recognize any help they have provided to you.  Also, any time you make a presentation you should consciously think about how you can recognize and talk positively about others in the audience.

 

While coaching an employee, I observed her as she presented a recently completed project.  She did a great job of giving an update on the technical aspects of the project and the value it would provide to the company, but what she failed to do was mention others in the audience who had been involved –even remotel...

September 28, 2014

I suffered terribly with guilt as I struggled to be successful in my job and to provide a great foundation for my child’s success.  I was the only working mother in my neighborhood when my daughter was born in 1990 and the only one of my “friend group” who elected to return to work after my child was born.  In fact, when my co-workers found out I was expecting, most did not expect me to return to work after her birth.  But I had worked three jobs to put myself through undergraduate school, attended graduate school at night while working full time and had worked hard to establish a successful career.  For me, work was where I wanted to be.  I had no intention of staying home. 

 

I respect people who make the choice to stay home and believe we should all make the choices that help fulfill our personal goals. While I desperately wanted a child, I also wanted a career outside of the home.  I am fortunate to have a husband who fully supported my decision and has alway...

September 9, 2014

Having managed large teams of both men and women one noticeable difference I witnessed is how aggressive and focused men are in asking for what they want.  This really stood out to me because I